How to be more Reliable in Your Relationships

How to be more Reliable in Your Relationships

In relationships you want to be reliable. Reliability of our partner is a primary concern for all of us. We want them to be reliable in many ways. We want them to show up when they say they will. We want them to no cheat. We want them to maintain their job, etc.

So, how can you be more reliable in your relationships? 

You can be more reliable by only making promises you intend to keep. Do not tell your partner something that is untrue, even if it is only half untrue.

You can be more reliable by following through with your feelings. If you want to be reliable and you say you love someone, you have to act like you love the person. Words and actions being consistent is part of being reliable. If you say you love your partner and then you abuse them, you are not reliable.

You can be more reliable by using your cell phone What? If you are going to be late, pick up your cell phone and call your partner and let them know, do not let them worry. If you can't do something they asked of you, tell them. Do not just wait until they ask why you did not do it.

You can be more reliable by making your actions consistent. So, if you show compassion to your partner when they get in a bad situation, but blame the homeless for their situation you are not being consistent. Eventually something is going to change. So, make all of your actions be what you want to have with your partner.

You being reliable is not enough, you want your partner to be reliable as well. How can you know if your partner is reliable? Try the following quiz:

Quiz your partner's basic values. Your values are going to say a lot about how reliable they are. Is your partner an opportunist? Do they take advantage of the best deal, or do they stick with their word on things? Let's look at a small example. Let's say you are shopping and your partner wants to buy a new suit. They try it on, it fits, they like it, they tell the sales person they will return and buy it when they are finished shopping. While you are shopping you find the same suit for less. So, does he jump on the opportunity and buy the suit that costs less, or does he keep his word? This may look and sound something very trivial, but character is always seen in the smallest instances. If you want your partner to be reliable look at their reliability in other instances.

Quiz your partner's ability to be compassionate. Does your partner see a homeless person and say they should get a job, or do they feel bad that they have fallen on hard times? When they see someone in need what is their reaction? Do they show compassion or do they place blame on the person? You may want to recognize that the way they act could be directed toward you some day. This is important to recognize because you want them to be reliable about staying consistent with their treatment of you and their compassion for you.

Next, quiz all of your partner's character traits- from love, to past relationships, to compassion on the elderly, understanding of various emotions, intelligence, values etc. and find out if your partner is reliable. To find out if your partner is reliable you will want to look at many things, and how they treat people is one of those things. If you ignore the small signs it will be at our own cost.